If your little ones could speak to you this Mother’s Day, maybe this is what they will want to say.
Blessed Mother’s Day, friends. 🙂
You loved me even before I was born. You sang songs to me, took folic acid religiously, read all the parenting books you could get your hands on, rubbed your womb all the time, and smiled whenever I kicked. Thank you for loving me so unconditionally.
The contractions were painful, the labor was long, and the nurses reminded you on the option of “happy-dural” and I came out soon after. You smiled so wide at me, and held my tiny trembling fingers in your warm palm, saying “Hi baby.” I loved you the moment I saw you – my Mama. Thank you for enduring the pain just so that I could come out and see this world.
I peed and pooped and wailed my lungs out. Papa and you seemed taken aback at how much I cried. I’m sorry, Mama. It was the only way I knew how to tell you that I was uncomfortable and upset. I also know I gave you a hard time when you tried to breastfeed me. Now that I’m older, I know you persevered because you wanted to give me the best. Thank you for taking the supplements, for watching what you ate so carefully, for pumping in the middle of the night, though you could have just gone to sleep.
Speaking about sleep – do you still remember what good sleep feels like? How those nights before I was here felt like? I’m sorry for all the sleep-deprivation and wailing in the middle of the night. I’m sorry the neighbors gave you dirty looks and asked if I was being difficult. I just wanted my Mama, and I needed you close. Snuggling with you is the best, and just knowing that you were around made me feel so safe.
I love you, Mama
I love it when you rock me to sleep. Your arms and back must be aching; I am so much heavier now. Thank you for being so patient when I can’t get to sleep and for sacrificing the time you could have used to clean up the house or get a cup of tea, just so you could rock me to sleep. Leaning on your chest, hearing your heartbeat, I close my eyes and get the rest that I need. You always smell my hair and kiss my cheek so gently, careful not to wake me up. Mama, you smell good too. 🙂
Thank you for being my biggest cheerleader through all my milestones, and for cheering me on as I took my first steps. “The world is your oyster now,” you whispered, as you dreamed big dreams for me, all the while reluctantly trying to accept the fact that I was no longer your helpless little baby. You have always believed in my potential – right from the start.
When I started school…
The day I started school was a big day in our house. You took pictures of me in my uniform, pursed your lips and tried to hide away your tears as you sent me to school. “You’re a big girl now. Listen to your teachers, and learn all you can. Mama loves you. Pray to Jesus whenever you feel lost okay?” I didn’t really understand why you were smiling with sad eyes, but I started learning that this world is bigger than I can comprehend. Sometimes, I don’t have to understand everything. As long as I know you love me, that is all that matters.
I was so sad to leave you at the school gate. I gave a tiny wave and put on a brave smile because I wanted to obey you. So I walked towards my class and found new friends and teachers. Slowly, I didn’t feel so sad anymore.
Sometimes, we would go to the mall and as we walked past the bread shop, I would ask for bread. Then as we walked past the dim sum shop, I would ask for bao. You smiled at me and whispered, “Not today okay? Let’s save some money. We have lots of food at home.” I didn’t know you were trying your hardest to stick to our budget, but I listened because I knew you always gave me more than enough. Thank you for teaching me the value in saving, and for choosing not to work so you can stay home with me. We may not be able to afford everything that I ask for, but I’m learning to appreciate the things that we can.
Do what is right
You always tell me to learn to do what is right, even if others do not do it. You remind me that in doing what is right, I will have a crown of blessings from God that will exceed my expectations. That is how our good God is. I’m sorry for all the tantrums and testing of boundaries. I’m sorry for throwing food on the floor and spitting out the porridge that you lovingly cooked for me this morning. Thank you for letting your food get cold just so you can feed me first. I’m sorry for running away when you tried to correct me. I’m sorry for making you upset, even though you have given me many chances to do the right thing.
Thank you for helping me see what is right from wrong, and giving me tough love when I need it. Thank you also for being gracious and merciful to me, and understanding that I am still learning to manage my emotions. My feelings are so intense to me, and sometimes I don’t know what to do when I get frustrated. I only know that I love you and you are my safe place to vent, Mama.
Thank you for holding back your tears when I hit you. You bit your lips and reminded me again and again not to climb onto that chair. My ears heard you but my heart seems to have a mind of its own. I’m trying, I promise. Please give me some time.
Oh and Mama, I love all the fun outings you planned for me. Thank you for letting me eat candy even though you know that sugar-high is a real risk to good sleep. Thank you for laughing at me when I make silly faces and thank you for relearning all the nursery rhymes and songs just because I love to sing them with you.
I’ll try to sleep better tonight okay? But if I wake up too early again, and cry out for you at 430am, just know that in my world – you are my best friend and I need you.
Happy Mother’s Day
This Mother’s Day, I just want to give you a bear-hug and say, “Thank you, Mama. For everything.”
For being so brave and giving birth to me.
For going through the months of sleepless nights.
For enduring the woes of breastfeeding.
For riding through my terrific toddler years.
For teaching me right from wrong.
For working so hard and cooking so much.
For showing me how to forgive.
For giving me unconditional love.
For faithfully serving Papa and me.
Even when we are so undeserving.
I am learning the truth about Jesus through you – how He loved me even when I was a sinner who knew nothing about salvation. Thank you for letting the light and love of God shine through you.
I love you deep deep, Mama. I always will. Happy Mother’s Day!
Love, your baby girl.